The good news from this insight: you don’t have to waste hours of your life on boring lectures and hunting for business cards. That doesn’t help anyway. If you want to build a network of resilient relationships, all you have to do is meet the same people regularly in the smallest possible circles in the most emotional situations possible (it doesn’t have to be a hostage situation). Shared sports, shared work projects, shared outings and shared meals are the best networking tools. So they can go ahead and do things they really enjoy, as long as they involve their partners to have intense experiences together. With relationships, it’s simply like sport: intensity and regularity bring success.